This is a subject that I know a lot of people don’t love to talk about as its very personal and some people find it embarrassing but you should all know by now that I don’t mind speaking about any taboo subjects.
I have had counselling over the last 4 years and I have seen 5 different councillors as I haven’t quite found the one for me yet. That’s kinda the unfortunate thing about counselling is that you need to find the one that works well with you and one you gel with, so like me you could work your way through a few of them. Don’t get me wrong I had a fair few sessions with each to give them a chance. But I think I have finally found one suited to me and my needs.
I had a long while off counselling and just recently decided to go back to it. I don’t feel like I’m going to relapse but I just felt that I needed to hit things I am dealing with head on and try to tackle it with counselling once and for all. I visited the counselling directory and just found a therapist I liked the look and sound of from their bio. This councillor I have gone for is fairly young which is new to me as they have all been 50 and over. Not that I’m being ageist at all, I’m just expressing that this is new for me to see a therapist who is fairly close to my own age. I’m looking forward to seeing how she does things. I have had 2 sessions with my councillor now and I feel like I have gelled with her well and she seems like she really wants to help me tackle my issues.
I honestly believe that absolutely everyone, no matter who you are and what you have gone through could do with seeing a therapist. It’s so important to release the bad and negative things that are weighing you down like a tonne of bricks. Everyone has gone through something and its great to talk about things and put them to bed. You’ll be surprised how great it can feel.
In all honestly I cry in nearly every session, sometimes bringing stuff up and being truly honest can be so raw and intense that you can’t help but cry. Plus it’s so natural and normal to cry especially in those types of environments, sometimes I think if I didn’t cry am I actually human?
One thing I have learnt about counselling is that you have to be 100% honest, if you can’t be honest with your therapist then you cant be honest with yourself and what is the point then?!
One thing Hannah Gale said in her recent vlog was “imagine having a really tangled up necklace and every session you untangle a little bit more” which couldn’t be truer. That’s how It feels. We all know what it feels like to have a jumbled brain and to be able to sort through it and put things in to little mental boxes and organise it all is such a great feeling. Plus finding ways and techniques to handle things is so helpful and makes life a little less stressful.
When I leave my sessions I feel happy, positive and light.
My reasons for writing this post is because I hate the fact that people feel they can’t talk about therapy or are ashamed/embarrassed. Also people think if they have therapy they are weak, which is SO not the case, you are strong for tackling an issue, not weak!! We are all humans, every single one of us has problems. Therapy is a wise and healthy decision and nothing to be ashamed of. If you get offered it by the NHS take it or if you can afford to pay for private sessions then do it. I do understand that not everyone likes counselling and feels it doesn’t benefit them.
I am excited for my journey with my councillor, I know that I cannot get rid of my mental health problems but I can definitely learn how to deal with them the best I can and to stop things getting in the way of my everyday life.
Baby steps and positivity! ❤
Love from Liv xo