Where Have I Been?

Good afternoon you lovely lot,

I have been fairly quiet on my blog and some of my social media. I just wanted to give you a little update!

I have had a pretty tough few months with my mental health which then resulted in me totally loosing my mojo for blogging but don’t you worry its back!! Thank gaawwwdd, I honestly thought it was gone forever and I was never going to get it back.

When life feels a bit poo its very easy to become unstuck and I sure did come unstuck!

Be happy, be positive and when bad things happen, the only way is up! Remember that. Things will return to normal now

Peace and love!

Love from Liv xo

 

Counselling – Lets Talk About It! Plus My Journey

This is a subject that I know a lot of people don’t love to talk about as its very personal and some people find it embarrassing but you should all know by now that I don’t mind speaking about any taboo subjects.

I have had counselling over the last 4 years and I have seen 5 different councillors as I haven’t quite found the one for me yet. That’s kinda the unfortunate thing about counselling is that you need to find the one that works well with you and one you gel with, so like me you could work your way through a few of them. Don’t get me wrong I had a fair few sessions with each to give them a chance. But I think I have finally found one suited to me and my needs.

I had a long while off counselling and just recently decided to go back to it. I don’t feel like I’m going to relapse but I just felt that I needed to hit things I am dealing with head on and try to tackle it with counselling once and for all. I visited the counselling directory and just found a therapist I liked the look and sound of from their bio. This councillor I have gone for is fairly young which is new to me as they have all been 50 and over. Not that I’m being ageist at all, I’m just expressing that this is new for me to see a therapist who is fairly close to my own age. I’m looking forward to seeing how she does things. I have had 2 sessions with my councillor now and I feel like I have gelled with her well and she seems like she really wants to help me tackle my issues.

I honestly believe that absolutely everyone, no matter who you are and what you have gone through could do with seeing a therapist. It’s so important to release the bad and negative things that are weighing you down like a tonne of bricks. Everyone has gone through something and its great to talk about things and put them to bed. You’ll be surprised how great it can feel.

In all honestly I cry in nearly every session, sometimes bringing stuff up and being truly honest can be so raw and intense that you can’t help but cry. Plus it’s so natural and normal to cry especially in those types of environments, sometimes I think if I didn’t cry am I actually human?

One thing I have learnt about counselling is that you have to be 100% honest, if you can’t be honest with your therapist then you cant be honest with yourself and what is the point then?!

One thing Hannah Gale said in her recent vlog was “imagine having a really tangled up necklace and every session you untangle a little bit more” which couldn’t be truer. That’s how It feels. We all know what it feels like to have a jumbled brain and to be able to sort through it and put things in to little mental boxes and organise it all is such a great feeling. Plus finding ways and techniques to handle things is so helpful and makes life a little less stressful.

When I leave my sessions I feel happy, positive and light.

My reasons for writing this post is because I hate the fact that people feel they can’t talk about therapy or are ashamed/embarrassed. Also people think if they have therapy they are weak, which is SO not the case, you are strong for tackling an issue, not weak!! We are all humans, every single one of us has problems. Therapy is a wise and healthy decision and nothing to be ashamed of. If you get offered it by the NHS take it or if you can afford to pay for private sessions then do it. I do understand that not everyone likes counselling and feels it doesn’t benefit them.

I am excited for my journey with my councillor, I know that I cannot get rid of my mental health problems but I can definitely learn how to deal with them the best I can and to stop things getting in the way of my everyday life.

Baby steps and positivity! ❤

Love from Liv xo

 

Do You Wax?

BONJOUR!

So, do you wax, pluck, shave, thread, cream hair removal or are you completely untouched? We all have out personal preferences on how we remove our bodily hair, mine has always been a mixture between shaving, waxing and cream hair removal. Out of all 3, waxing is the most effective as it removes the hair right from the root which means you will be hairless for longer which lets face it is what we all want. The only downside is that waxing is the most painful! Beauty is pain though, we must remember this!

Parissa have a wonderful range of waxing products. I used their brow shaper strips, hot wax and wax strips and each of them were very effective. Here’s what I thought & a bit more about the products…

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Brow Shaping Wax Strips:

I must admit I have never seen these anywhere on the market before. They are mini sized wax strips perfect to fit around your brows. They are great for getting that brow arch perfect or even for the hairs on your fingers or toes. Such a cool idea to make wax strips that small. This also comes with Azulene Oil which soothes and softens and helps prevent ingrown hairs. The other great thing about these wax strips is that they are very small so the pain is minimal! There are 32 strips in the packet.

Hot Wax With No Strips:

This wax is in a little metal saucepan, in order to heat the product you put it on the stove till it has reached a honey like consistency. Another cool concept, I have not seen this on the market before. In the packet it comes with spatulas and this is how you apply the wax to your body part. You put a fairly thick layer on and it will dry quite quickly, give the wax a little tap to make sure it’s not wet and then pick an edge and rip off, always going against the hair growth. Make sure the where you are pulling off the skin is pulled taut! The good thing about this product is that you can reheat the wax when you like so if you didn’t use that much, you can reuse when you wish too. Fab creation!

Wax Strips For Face And Bikini:

These strips are ones that you would have probably seen before on the market somewhere. You have to rub the strips with in between your hands to warm up the wax, then separate the strips in to two, smooth it down on the desired area, pull skin taut and pull off in the opposite direction of hair growth. You get 16 strips in the box.

I found each product worked very well and I had no issues, I was very impressed! They are also super handy for travelling. I will definitely be taking these away with me when I go on my next adventure!

You can check Parissa out here. You can also purchase Parissa in Boots & Amazon.

Thanks for reading,

Love From Liv xo

*These were kindly sent to me but all opinions are honest and my own*

 

 

Chic STM Laptop bag

I am forever wanting to take my laptop places with me but for some reason I have never had a laptop bag, until now.

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The STM laptop bags are so ideal for when you need to take your laptop on the move, they are bright and modern! The lining in the bag is super soft, its actually makes me wish I was small enough to curl up and take a nap in there, no joke! It has a zipable pocket at the front and a couple of pockets on the inside too. The handles are nice and long, the bag is worn like a tote bag. The straps are nice and thick so they are comfortable over your shoulder plus it feels so sturdy, no straps breaking here!

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The bag I have is orange and beige which is lovely and bright. I love how now I can take my laptop on the move with me and not worry about it getting damaged. Life saver!

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Check out all of STM’s bags here.

Thanks for reading!

Love from Liv xo

Giving up Youtube & Getting Back Into Youtube

Early last year I dipped my toe in to the world of YouTube. I have always been a viewer but never a creator. I got myself a good camera and off I went into my YouTube journey, or so I thought.

The thing was I knew I loved watching vlogs and “main channel” videos so I thought to start off I will start my YouTube channel by vlogging. Well after a few vlogs I realised that vlogging was not for me, I hated it! I then turned to sit down videos and did videos like shopping hauls, monthly faves and whats in my bag. Turns out I hated doing them too. So I put my last video up and never picked the camera up to film ever again.

After sitting down and really thinking about it, I never watch things like that on YouTube don’t get me wrong I LOVE clothes, makeup and skin care but it’s not something I enjoy watching. So why would I enjoy filming it? It finally all made sense to me after I thought about what I love, what my passions are and what I would like to talk about and that is real life things, being, mental health, weight, sex, periods, bodies, people – that is my passion. Talking about things that matter and that people can relate too! I am quite a sarcastic, dry, sweary person and the prim and proper videos that I was doing just didn’t suit me. Its time to be a little bit more me.

The world of YouTube can be daunting and scary and its hard to know what you want your content to be and also having the confidence to do so! I think I have the confidence to do that, I mean I would have those conversations in real life with friends or even random people so why is Youtube any different? If you fail, try and try again till you get it right.

I have passions and I love working towards breaking stigmas and speaking about taboo subjects, I also love to help anyone going through a time of need. If anything I talk about helps even one person in anyway then my job is done!

My channel will be open, airy and honest. With different topics every week! Hopefully everyone can support and enjoy me new content that’s coming soon!!

Thanks for reading,

Love from Liv xo

Helping Improve My Sleep with S+ By ResMed – Review

I was so excited to give the S+ by ResMed a go, I have a terrible sleeping pattern. I find falling asleep of a night very difficult and as a result of that I find it quite hard to wake up. So, when they ResMed team got in touch, I thought, yes this is the answer to all my problems!

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S+ is the worlds first contactless sleep tracker, this comes with a downloadable app which is called ResMed, you have to connect your phone with the S+ device and it will collate all the information which is very clever and it has a tonne of cool features which are:

Identifying Sleep Issues:

This will give you personalised feed back which in time will allow you to resolve sleeping issues.

Relaxing:

The S+ has a feature where you can play soothing sounds to help you drift off to sleep. The sound gradually synchronizes with your breathing to make falling asleep even more relaxing.

Getting The Room Right:

The device tells you how bright your room is, what the noise levels are like and the temperature of your room, which as I have learnt are 3 very important factors in order to gain a great night sleep.

Clear your mind:

On the app you will find a notes section, where you can write down things that are in your brain, clogging it up and affecting your sleep. You can also write a to do list so your brain is a bit more organised and you know what the next day brings so it makes falling to sleep easier.

Understanding Sleep:

The S+ tells detects your sleep from the minute you fall asleep to the minute you wake up, it helps you to understand what is influencing your sleep patterns and suggests things you can do in order to improve your sleep.

Waking You Gently:

You can choose a time frame to be woken up. The S+ will wake you up in your lightest phase of sleep. So that you wake up nice and refreshed, which I have to say does actually work!

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When you wake up and check the app and see how your sleep was, the first thing you will probably see is a graph which is made up of everything that the S+ monitors you for: deep sleep, light sleep, REM (rapid eye movement) and wake. You will also get told your total sleep score, how many disruptions you had throughout the night, it will tell you how long everything lasted for (see photo) and what your total sleep time was. It will also give you advice on how to improve your sleep.

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I would 100% recommend the S+ By ResMed to anyone, especially people who suffer with any sleep related problems, it gives you such a good idea as to what is going on whilst you are asleep. Every night I feel like it’s a competition that I need to have a better score than the night before haha, nothing like a bit of healthy competition with yourself!

If you are interested in buying this, you can buy it here or in John Lewis or Amazon.

Thanks for reading,

Love from Liv xo

 

*All opinions are honest and my own.

 

 

 

 

 

Why Should We Be Ashamed?

For whatever reason this topic has been circling around in my head for quite sometime. It is also a topic that is controversial. This topic is anti-depressants.

I have been on anti depressants for about 4-5 years, when the time came for me to get my butt to the doctor and finally face the truth that I was not ok, anti-depressants were offered to me. At the time I suffering with severe anxiety & panic, agoraphobia and depression. I was someone who had never really experienced any mental health issues in my life nor did I know anyone who had suffered. Safe to say I felt extremely lonely and lower than low.

When offered the meds I was sceptical, as you would be but at the same time I was DESPERATE to be me again. I felt like the person I once was had died, was she ever going to come back? Who knew?

I took the medication, my doctor prescribed me 100mg of Sertraline. When I first took this I was so ill, the side effects were like nothing I had ever experienced. But once the side effects passed I slowly but surely felt like me again, I was able to go out and enjoy life the way I did before. I cannot describe how nice it felt to feel like I had a personality again, no longer was I a shell of a human.

As time went on I learnt that my doctor gave me a prescription that was WAY too strong and left me with the challenge to reduce my medication bit by bit the better I felt. Instead of starting me on 10mg and letting me go up if I felt worse he stuck me on a very high dosage with hard hopes of ever reducing. I have also learnt that my medication has a lot of side effects that I deal with on a daily basis.

It’s hard as it is, I admit I don’t want to be on medication for the rest of my life and I don’t want to have to deal with the daily side effects like weight gain & not being able to loose weight till I’m off the meds, allergic reactions, sleep issues and more. The issue I face here is are the effects of my meds that I suffer with everyday worse than feeling in the worst place possible mentally? No, if you put it on paper, they are not. Yes of course my weight gets me down but nowhere near as down as I have felt in the past.

I have gone through the past 4-5 years of people being cool about me taking medication and other people giving me opinions that I don’t need. Slating the meds, saying how I can do this with out the meds, medication is for the weak, medication is covering the issue, Christ the list is endless. Just becuase someone doesnt agree or has a certain narrow minded opinion on medication that should not make you feel ashamed or emabressed.

My thoughts are if you have not suffered with mental health in any way shape or form, if you are not inside my body and you can’t feel what I feel and if you do not understand mental health then your opinion is IRRELEVANT!!

In actual fact me taking that medication 4 1/2 years ago was the best thing I could have ever done. It pulled me out of a dark hole and put me back on track. Medication is there for a reason. People will literally have an opinion on everything they want even when they really don’t have a clue what they are talking about.

If you had to take medication for a physical health symptom, would you bash someone for that choice, no you wouldn’t as they need that medication to make them well again.

I plan on reducing my medication every time I feel great, so every few months I will reduce and keep going till I feel mentally well enough to live life without them, but if I feel like I’m going back down hill and I can’t pull myself out of it I will put my medication back up and I see NO shame in that whatsoever. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.

Don’t get me wrong I am aware that sometimes medication doesn’t work for everyone. No one is the same, what works for one person may not necessarily work for another.

I want to help try to break the stupid stigma around medication for your mental health. If you need help, so what? Why should anyone be made to feel ashamed for taking medication? The fact that people hide it from their friends & loved ones because they are ashamed or peoples comments have made them feel embaressed makes me feel so sad!

I write this because I am passionate about it and also I’m very open and honest about mental health. If someone doesnt understand mental health or medication, try educating them! Its probably the best thing to do.

Thanks for reading, please let me know if you can relate to this!

Love From Liv xo